Learning to empathize

Avish Vijay

I am Avish Vijaivergiya. I am a User Experience Designer and in the meantime, I just look at things as I love to compare and bitch about them. Things like water taps, doors, dustbins and what not.

Have you ever done this exercise, when someone special is coming to your house, you try to imagine all the scenarios possible, try to understand their needs, you tidy up the place a little, looking into those minor details?

Well, it’s simple, you have just put things in a meaningful order so that your guest feels
good. You have just designed a usable experience. That’s what I try as well, So the
question is, how do I it, or rather why do I do this? Why is it needed?

To answer that question, I would like to roll back the time a little. I was a very very shy kid who cannot talk more than a sentence. Adding to the mess, I was a single child as well. I used to have this strange thought that was a byproduct of this low self-esteem “I as a person don’t matter, its the person for whom I am doing this work for which matters a lot”. All these years I always felt that my views, my feelings, my thoughts don’t matter to anyone.

Among all this, I had a hard family time as well which suppressed me even further. Don’t worry I won’t go into sentimental details. This thing, which back then had many negative impacts, had empowered me with one amazing thing which I cherish forever i.e Empathy.

My experience with subsequent ordeal has offered me high self-monitoring, hyper-vigilance and a predisposition to and taking on a lot of emotional work.

With my background, I find this difficult to turn off. Whenever I’m around people or things, I’m gathering information, I’m studying behaviors, I’m noticing usability. I struggle to avoid being the vessel. I have to make a conscious effort to stop. But stopping feels unsafe.

This makes me more of a designer.

And now things have started falling into place, from graduating as a civil engineer from IIT Roorkee to taking a leap of faith in design and deciding to follow my passion to give this world better usability, a better experience.

Avish Vijaivergiya
Delegate, YIC IIT Delhi 2019

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